When I first met Ken, we were in Russian politics. And we didn't actually meet. We just made eyes at each other, and he wouldn't talk to me when I tried to cross his path after class. He claims shyness. Even when we were just eye flirting...we had something...a spark. That spark let me know that this was something. Something special.
I don't think that THAT spark is something felt in just romantic love. I think that with every type of relationship there can be a moment that you just know that they are special.
I have had it at college, I have had it at work, I have even had it with several bloggers (okay, I couldn't think of a way to make a third blog link, but here you go McMommy).
I have met these women and thought, "Oh yes, we will be friends."
And I haven't had that here. I mean, it has only been a two months...so I can't expect the first person I meet to be my Austria-friend-soul-mate. But I would really like it to happen like that.
Is it just me? Am I a plutonic-romantic-er-plutontic?
My mom says I should just be friends with everyone and don't expect perfection...
Thoughts?
Your Hostess, TRS
I'm a new mom following my husband on his crazy adventures. I love the South and never wanted to leave. These are my tales about my adventures of trying to fit into the world with no Chick-fil-a.
The Hubs, Kdubs
He is a recently minted lawyer and dad (within about 10 days of each other). He is a self-acknowledged work-a-holic with stir crazy tendencies. (This is why we are nomadic, people!) He is quiet and shy with everyone but me. I can't seem to get him to shut up!
The baby, Cdubs
Born 11-28-09
Penny, The pups
She is spending the time with the grandparents while we are in Austria. I miss her funny face like crazy!
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Hard to say. No one's perfect, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't hope (expect?) to have a connection with your friends. Sometimes a little loneliness makes me appreciate prior "sparks" just a little bit more, too. Good luck, TRS. It's not easy moving away so far from home. But if anyone can make it amazing anyways, it's you and KW. (I always think of you when I see signs for Hell, MI. Enjoy your European travel adventures!)
Are you trying to say that my eye-flirting with you was a bit overboard?
p.s. Have you tried hanging out in the ER at all? Because truly, don't all friendships start in an emergency room?
I think that the friend spark can be increasingly difficult to find as I age. I don't think it is getting older as much as it is having a fuller life - - hubby, kids, work, the events of the day. While I have an easier time finding something in commmon with some one, I have a harder time feeling like people really "get" me.
That said, I would give it some time. Two months isn't very long at all!
I miss the spark, too, ADawg! I think it's a precious thing that comes along every now and again. BUT... you can still have lots of fun people in your life that each serve their own unique purpose.
We need to rekindle our spark; I've been missing our connection ;)
Love and hugs,
BB
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