Friday, December 19, 2008


I got a call this afternoon from my brother, Bo.
He said, "so mom is getting ready to go into surgery."

I had no idea what he was talking about. Our mom?

She said her back hurt when I talked to her yesterday...what happened, what is wrong, do I need to get home (all went through my head).

Bo had little info: He was called at midnight last night to come home because mom was going to the hospital for something with her leg (what!?! is it an aneurysm? OMG! she has a clot!)

He had no other info but said that middle brother, Chops, was on his way.

I called Chops and miraculously he answered his phone and said that mom was having a problem in her lady parts like a cyst (WHAT!?! Please tell me she isn't having an ovary taken out or worse a hysterectomy!?!?!)

He had no other info.

I was at work frantically calling and texting my dad.

He called and put my mom on, who was so out of it I didn't know what she was saying.

I panicked...she is delusional!!!!

Finally, dad got on the phone and said that she was drugged up for surgery. It is not life threatening as far as they know but very is some sort of abscess in her groin area that they will find and drain.

He then said, "i think."

Bo then called me saying, "She is out of surgery and they drained something and she is in recovery...we can't see her for awhile. They might keep her sometime."

I called Chops with no new info and finally I talked to Mom a minute ago. She is in her room for overnight. She does not remember our conversation before at all.

I am so happy she is okay, for what I know, but there are so many things going on in my head.

I HATE being so far away from my family in emergencies
All I want to do is take care of her
Boys are no good at details
but they are good at being calm under pressure
We need to have a Standard Operating Procedure on how to react to emergencies including chain of information command.
They think I am ridiculous for "over reacting"
I said, "if you were in the hospital this is how I would react over you...I love you you idiot!!! How should I act about OUR MOTHER!?!"

KW is killing me trying to get "work" done before we leave...I NEED to be in ATL NOW!!!!

Maybe I just won't leave that way I can take care of everyone like I like to do.

With this new development and the holidays, I have no idea when i will post next. Please keep my mom and my travels in your prayers if you can.

God, I love my mom.


Puttin' On The GRITS said...

A situation like that can make you feel even further away than you already are! I'm glad she's through it and doing well. I'll be thinking about you & your mom!

amanda said...

sending lots of love, hugs and prayers!!

safe travels...

Anonymous said...

Im sure you didnt meant for it to be funny, but your brothers made me laugh! It's so funny how men glaze over details while we are so very in need of them!!

I am so glad she is doing okay! I will say a prayer for you all!!

The Roaming Southerner said...

It's okay, I kinda meant it to be funny. My brothers are always funny. In health, sickness, life, death (there are some funerals that we have been to that I was in stitches laughing at them)...they will always make me laugh and drive me crazy

3boys247 said...

Ah yes, boys do suck for details..

I hope everything is ok with your mom. Please keep us posted.

cynthiaa said...

Will def keep your Mom in my prayers.

Best of luck and travels.

GranolaGirl said...

I'm so sorry, A... I will pray for safe travel for you and a quick recovery for your mom.

Anonymous said...

We shall keep you and your Mom in our thoughts and prayers, hoping for a good recovery for her and safe travel for you. (I would say good travels but these days that seems like asking for a lot.)

And yes, we have *so* been there with the male siblings staying much-too-calm in our hysterical, 2000 miles away hysteria as Mother is wheeled into surgery. "Don't tell me I"m overreacting you *&^%*!"

Sending you a cyberhug,

Kate said...

Keeping your fam in my thoughts this week :)

The Mrs. said...

being away at times like this is the hardest. And your right, boys are idiots. I remember calling my brother to see how my mom was after her hysterectomy, and he didn't remember that she was having one.

the ben show said...

Brothers... aargh.... I'm glad she's doing well. Merry Christmas.

Krystyn said...

I'm a little late....I hope she is doing well and your travels were good.

Merry Christmas.

Erin said...

Oh darling, I would have gone to your moms for you, as we are here in GA. We leave tomorrow. I know how bad it sucks to live away when there is a family emergency. I am thinking of oyu, and am thankful to have read that she is doing okay.,